We should have taken a picture

 

Little me, Gabe, and my sister, Cassan

My cousin, Gabe passed away this week after battling brain cancer for the last 2 years.  He was just 32.

My parents used to send me to stay with my grandma on Oahu during the summers.   I was a little homesick being away from my parents and my siblings, who I oddly missed even though I swear they drove me crazy.  But, at least, I got to see my cousin Gabe.   He was such a sweet kid and a blast to have as a friend.  He never let a friend go at it alone, he would rush by your side despite any hare-brained idea you might have come up with…like starting a small fire in my grandma’s apartment.  Oh, boy, did we get lickings that day.

I remember how each summer saw us a little older.  We used to just love watching Sesame Street.  The next summer it was G.I. Joe…then The Monkeys …then WWF (now known as WWE) and MacGyver.  My grandma worked the midnight shift and slept during the day, so we were left to run amuck.  Piling the cushions into a giant pile on the living room floor, and jumping off the kitchen counter pretending we were Ricky “The Dragon” Steamboat flipping off the turnbuckle.  Mixing condiments from the fridge, hoping we could make a liquid explosive like the one MacGyver used to escape the bad guys.

Then Gabe and his mom and brother moved to the mainland.  Gabe eventually ended up in California with his childhood best friend, Lopaka.  He met a girl, beautiful loving Susan, fell in love, and settled down.  Our childhood was now just memories.  Then, Monday, I got the call.  Gabriel was gone.

I called my older sister at work the minute I heard the news.  Despite being aware of the severity of his battle with cancer, we were still stunned.  Devastated.  My sister brought up the last time we saw Gabe.  When Gabe was diagnosed 2 years ago, he and his girlfriend flew over from California to see the family.  We had a big family dinner at my uncle’s house.  For many of us, it had been years since we saw him and the first time really meeting Gabe, all-grown up Gabe, the man.  Gabe was never one for being the center of attention, so I tried not to make a big fuss and treated the night like it was any other typical family dinner.  Now,  how I wish I had fussed.

I guess my sister feels the same because she said all she keeps thinking is “we should have taken a picture together.  We don’t have any pictures with him.”  My heart fell as I realized how right she was.  We had the whole family together for once, and we don’t even have a picture.   Something to have with us now that he no longer is.  Something to hold close to us now that he’s not here to hug.

And so I wanted to share that with you.  Please PLEASE take pictures.  Take them every week…even every day. Take a picture of moments, big and small.  Your family on a beach day.  Your daughter dancing in her pajamas while watching Yo Gabba Gabba.  Your husband washing dishes after a long day in the office.  We become distracted by the busy hum of everyday routine, but life is full of moments you’ll want to remember.  Even the seemingly mundane moments, like watching MacGyver with your cousin, can become the most cherished of memories.

I’m not saying this as a photographer.  I’m saying this as a wife, a daughter, a mom, a friend, and now, a grieving cousin.  It can be a professional shoot, but, honestly, it doesn’t need to be.  You can use any camera, that point and shoot you got for Christmas,  even your camera phone.  Just don’t ever find yourself saying those words…

“we should have taken a picture.”

I leave you with the last picture I have with me and Gabe in it.  That’s my baby sister, Genesis, with us.  I don’t know who took this picture, I don’t know what kind of camera it was.  It doesn’t follow any of the composition rules of photography.  I could care less.  This photo is absolutely beautiful.

 

 

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Kaneohe, Hawaii | Hoomaluhia Botanical Garden Wedding | Samantha and Will

This is the story of Samantha, a local girl, who found herself falling in love with a boy who lived in Texas.  Fast-forward a year and we find this local girl planning her Hawaiian garden wedding from the Lone Star state.   Through emails and  our pre-wedding meetings over the phone I first heard their story, how they met and how they fell in love.  Will is this articulate and gregarious man, who regaled me with the story of how he proposed.  He wrote a song for her and surprised her by performing it for her at their favorite restaurant.   When he finished, the patrons cheered and Samantha said YES!!!  So, when Will told me that back when he first met Samantha, he was overcome with shyness and had trouble talking to her, I didn’t believe him at first.   Everything I had learned about Will screamed the opposite of  shyness.  It was, as he explained, an inexplicable reaction to her beauty.      Even years later, as he’s telling me the story, he repeatedly exclaims “She’s gorgeous, you know, just look at her!  I couldn’t even talk…all I could think of was how beautiful she was and that there was no way she would want to talk to me.”  But, thankfully for Will, she did.  So, they talked, and talked again the next day…and the day after that…and now that talk had turned into how they were going to spend the rest of their lives together.

And I was the fortunate one who was chosen to capture their Hoomaluhia Botanical Garden Wedding.

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All the floral arrangements were created by Samantha’s mom

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Samantha and Will had originally chosen to do their portraits before the ceremony to lessen the time between the ceremony and reception.  But that morning, Samantha called and asked if there was time to pull off a “First Look” as well.  Of course!!!  Anything for my brides and grooms!!!  As a photographer, I love taking family and wedding party photos before the ceremony.  Everyone looks fresh, the atmosphere is more relaxed and it really shows in the pictures.   There’s just something magical about that incredible moment when the groom first sees his bride.  This “First Look” gives them that chance to experience the butterflies when you first see the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with on your wedding day.

My second shooter, Malia, and I raced to the ceremony site early and found the perfect location.  We coordinated with the bride and groom to keep them from spotting each other before the “First Look”.  We led them to the private spot then stepped back to let them savor their special moment.  Will beamed as he stood there with his back turned, not even knowing that Samantha had arrived and was walking toward him.  She tapped him on the shoulder and when he turned, his expression transformed into pure joy.

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Windward showers greeted us early that morning but the clouds pulled back in time to reveal the bluest sky I’d ever seen. Music is near and dear to both Samantha and Will.  Will, a musician, just released “In Your Hands, a CD of children’s worship songs.  And Samantha lent her artistic talents by creating the cover art for the album. They integrated a time for worship and prayer into their wedding ceremony.

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It was one of the most relaxed and joy-filled weddings I’ve been to in a long time.  Nothing could steal their joy.  There was even a mishap where a family friend lost Samantha’s wedding band right before the ceremony.  They seemed to have dropped it in the grass somewhere and wasn’t quite sure where.  And, yes, and we are standing in the middle of a very large botanical garden.  Samantha remained unfazed and was the one offering comfort.  She waved it off without faltering and pointed out that the ring could be replaced.  And so the  wedding band was left for lost and we continued on as if nothing happened.  But that’s not the end of the story.  Do you know what great people have?  Great friends!  The next day, the maid-of-honor, Natalie, got a metal detector and went back.  And she found the wedding ring!  I don’t know about Samantha and Will, but I think this will be one of those wedding stories I always remember.  Weddings aren’t just about the love between the couple.  It’s about all the love that surrounds them, the love and support of good friends and family.

Will and Samantha, thank you a million times over for letting me witness such a wonderful day!  I’d also like to thank Malia Salmon who was my spectacular second shooter.

 

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